The fine secret of Indian Match Making – Must understand if you are looking for a partner
October 8, 17
The fine
secret of Indian Match Making – Must understand if you are looking for a
partner
Greetings from Hitesh! Today I am dealing with
some unique subject matter of marriage match making. If you are parent looking
for a match for your son or daughter or if you are looking for a life partner
this is a must read for you all. For others – it will help you to understand
the beauty of Wisdom of India Sages.
What a
TYPICAL ASTROLOGER does when he do match making for his clients?
If you go to a NORMAL astrologer – he will
match the RASHI i.e. MOON SIGN of boy and girl and give you marks out of 36.
More the marks (known as GUN), it is considered better. They also match the
MARS. Most of you would be aware about
MANGLIK and NON MANGLIK Horoscope while doing match making. Normal clients also believe this and go ahead
with the marriage plans.
Actually there are 9 planets and the match
making should be done with respect to each of the 9 planets and not just 2
planets i.e. MOON and MARS. Why then they follow this method only in India?
How a
typical arranged marriage happens?
The secret lies in Indian way of arranged
marriage. If you understand this secret – you will appreciate the commonsense
of our sages and will be more than happy to apply the same.
Look at how a typical arranged marriage takes
place. Normally, a relative or family friend will give you the reference for a
girl or a boy.
When they give you the reference – they would
have taken care of following things – the position or image of the family in
the society / the business back ground of the family / eating and religious
habits of the family / Whether the other members in that family have kids or
not?
So reference before referring you a proposal
would have matched following.
1. The image of the family represents the SUN. It
matches.
2. Business background of the family represents the
SATURN. It also matches.
3. Eating and religious beliefs represents
JUPITER. It also matches.
4. Kids with family members represent VENUS. It
also matches.
5. MERCURY represents economic position. It also
matches.
If you exclude RAHU and KETU, there are 7
planets. Our reference does the above 5 matching before giving us the
reference. Now, the only two things remain which are 100% individual.
1st is MOOD of the person and 2nd
is Attitude of the person. These both qualities have nothing to do with the
name and fame of the family.
Mood is gauged by MOON and MARS gauges ATTITUDE.
So, our SAGES knew the social system and the
developed the match making system based on the SOCIAL system of the time.
Most so called criticizer of HOROSCOPE Matching
would argue that they have not matched the horoscope in their family but all
have very long lasting marriages. They may not formally use the word horoscope or
astrology but they do match the above 5 things. When 5 things tally out of 7,
chances of successful marriage becomes very high. So, they also follow the
astrology without talking about the same.
What
happens in a typical love marriage?
Love happens when the boy and girl have an
opportunity to be with each other for a longer time. The places where they
remain for a longer time together generally are working areas or study areas.
When they work together – their SATURN MATCHES
/ they know the general MOOD of each other so MOON MATCHES / They are attracted
towards each other so VENUS matching. But their economic positions (MERCURY) /
family NAME ( SUN) / eating and religious habits (JUPITER) / ATTITUDE (MARS) –
may or may not match. Normally, they do not match. So, in love marriage there
are more challenges then arranged marriages.
How
the marriage takes place in current time?
Thanks to online matrimonial sites / Facebook
and other social media platforms – there are N number of ways a boy and girl
are coming together. The process is boy and girl select each other / chat with
each other and then they go to their family for approval and marriage
celebration.
Here also – there are many compromises are made
by parents just to please their son or daughter. Many online couples have same
issues like love marriage couples with respect to compatibility with each
other.
Do we
think MATCH MAKING is relevant in current time?
To answer that let us see what happens in a
typical marriage, irrespective of love or arranged marriage.
In a typical HAPPY marriage the partner tires
to make other person obedient and consider his/her partner as a THING he or she
owns. Normally, the husband earning in the family, dominated a female, a
non-earning member for decades in the past. In current time, girls are more
educated than boys and they are earning well. So, they both try to dominate
each other and the rate of divorce has gone up like any thing in last 5 years.
The other thing is very few are ready to give
REFERENCE for marriage in current time. They say we can take the guarantees of
the parents but we don’t know their son or daughter so well. So, references are
not that reliable.
In such a case, we recommend detailed study of
HOROSCOEPS of boy and girl with respect to all the planets before recommending
a match.
What
NEXT?
This post may or may not be useful to you at a
personal level. I have written this post to educate my N number of friends who
approaches me for friendly guidance for match making. If you like you can store
this for your future reference or forward to your marriageable friend.
Have a HAPPY SUNDAY.
Live With
Passion…Invest With Passion.
Hitesh Parikh.
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